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hey, listen up. Marchant has a very good excuse for not updating....
right March?....
ummm March...excuse....
Wait he has a girlfriend now, and I am sure that takes up a lot of his time...
Isn't that right Marchant?...
Oh what's that, she lives on the other side of the country? And you told me so? That you weren't gay?
See everyone, he can't update. He is too busy! And I told ya'll he wasn't gay, just shy.
Posted by a cynical friend @ 07/23/2002 10:52 PM CST
Which one doesn't belong:
no school, no job, no update
Posted by At least I'm not on crack @ 07/23/2002 09:58 PM CST
Does anyone else think that Dave Matthews and Tom Hanks resemble each other?
Posted by just a little bored... @ 07/23/2002 03:05 PM CST
ARETHA!!!
Posted by Marit @ 07/21/2002 04:21 PM CST
In light of me commenting on this without having read the actual post yet (darn lynx), I see that march has found someone that feels as strongly for him as he does for her. Yay!
I have had one serious relationshipwhere I was "in love". I think you can say "I love you" to a person, but not be "in love" with that person. That doesn't mean that I just throw "I love you" around though. I have people that tell me that they love me, but I also know that they are not "in love" with me.
I'm not seeing anyone right now...actually haven't since the first one ever (first one, last one, etc etc, and here I am, 23 years old, kinda scary). Anyway, I was in love, she was just loving me. I don't think she was "in love".
My advice for March and Sandy would be to take things slowly. Definitely keep the pants on (I did go skinny dipping with Lori ("her") before we had even had our first kiss). I don't think that was wrong -- it was all the way plutonic. We just wanted to go swimming, didn't have suits (and we had hiked into the falls quite a ways). Anyway. I would tend to be more liberal in the relationship, but would also caution you to take it slow in terms of the sexual aspect. Take it from me, though I don't regret it, it does sorta ruin it for your soulmate you plan on spending the rest of your life with. You will NEVER forget the person you lose your virginity to/with, and that person is the one you compare alllllllll the rest too (even though I haven't had ALLLLLLLL the rest, i'm sure that's what's gonna happen).
Enough of me ramblin, sorry if the format is off a bit, lynx doesn't do well with this text entry field. :(
Posted by Joey (one who has already been there) @ 07/18/2002 02:06 AM CST
everybody's different...and what harm is in holding hands or just kissing? well to you maybe nothing, to someone else maybe everything. holding hands and hugging is nice and it makes you feel wanted and loved and that's good. just be careful about how important it is to the relationship. march, the other night you told me that you didn't know if you could wait past the first night....and why not? where did this importance of kissing come from? that's not what makes a relationship. it's so much more than that. just think twice before you act too fast.
Posted by you've heard it all before @ 07/17/2002 10:12 PM CST
Okay... where to start? First of all, I just wanna make sure that this doesn't come out sounding like I took offense to the last statement.
Everybody's different. Maybe I might not be the one for March... but everybody's different. Different in almost every way imaginable... even in ways unimaginable. It's possible that holding hands isn't "sacred" to some people. In fact, didn't you do it with another kid from pre-school until like second grade? Yeah, yeah, I know lttle kids are "innocent"... but the point is, a little (emphasis on 'little') physical contact never killed anyone.
Saying "I love you" though... that's something I don't wanna rush into. It's as important as saying "I hate you". Not something anyone wants to let slip out.
:: yawn :: Why am I so tired today?
Oh yeah, one more thing to add to the "everybody's different" theory... I'm sorry you've been so pained by previous relationships... but that's a part of growing up. Making mistakes. Learning for yourself is a great idea... but the most you can do for others is give advice and hope that they'll listen to it. Most of the time, people will ignore the warnings and do exactly the opposite of what you told em' not to do. That's a part of their growing up. Heck, sometimes it doesn't work for you, but it works for them. I know there's no substitute for experience... but human nature is to experience it for yourself.
I'm hungry now... I'm gonna go grab a bite.
Posted by You know who @ 07/17/2002 12:07 PM CST
sorry to confuse you sage, but I was saying that I think marchant should NOT do so many physical things such as: kissing or petting and things of that nature. Not just because it can lead to bad things, which it can, but also because he has never really done quite so many of these things, and if he has waited this long then why not wait a little longer and make sure beyond a doubt that Sandy is the one, before he does that. I am just saying he should continue to hold kissing and saying I love you, and holding hands even, as a sacred thing, and not waste them on the wrong person...no offense Sandy, I just want him to be sure...one hundred and ten percent sure, which takes time...lots of time. Thought after six months I was right, but I wasn't, the second time around it took me over a year. Sorry for the bad news.
Posted by correcting myself @ 07/17/2002 08:57 AM CST
While I think that good sentiment is there, I disagree with the suggestion to hold back on kissing or touching. The fact is, that can be just as dangerous as doing more risque things. If you don't have some sort of physical expression of affection, you could totally cave in and go way too far.
Besides, what harm is holding hands or hugging? This world is a harsh enough place as it is. I say, if you find someone who wants to hug you, hug them every chance you get. As for kissing, be more cautious. 1st base can easily lead to second base and so on. But again, even if March and Sand aren't soulmates, I doubt they'd regret a kiss.
Posted by The Sage @ 07/17/2002 12:20 AM CST
But nudity is where it's at!
Posted by Marit has seen hundreds of nekkid folk @ 07/16/2002 10:17 PM CST
I look stupid in the poptart picture. :o(
I agree with The Sage... keep your pants on. ;o) Wait... we already talked about this, huh?
Follow your heart, and I promise not to trample all over it. Like I said (in not so romantic terms), you're a keeper.
I can't give wise advice... or anything of the sort, b/c I'm in the same boat with you. I can't look at it from the outiside... but I can be right here to go through the same things that you're going through. If that helps any...
Posted by ..... @ 07/16/2002 02:31 PM CST
Just one thing I wanted to add to the wise words of The Sage. I am only saying this because I have been there and regretted it. Why just keep your pants on? Why not keep your hands to yourself, and why not keep your lips to yourself, and why not keep your words to yourself. Heaven forbid that Sandy not be the right one, but on the off chance that something happens, then you have wasted everything sacred that you have kept so long for your wife. I think that guys never think about these sorts of things as precious: kissing, touching, looking, saying I Love you, but a lot of girls do. They completly save themselves...everything that they can think of for their husbands. March I know you won't agree with me, and your going to say, "This is coming from you!?!?" But yes, If there is anything good that came from my past it would be the knowledge I can spread to relationship newbies. Don't take it for granted. P.S. I like Sandy a lot, and even though I think you haven't known her long enough to be in a relationship, I'm not condemning it, I'm just looking out for number two, number one is already a lost cause.
Posted by just a want-a-be sage @ 07/16/2002 01:41 PM CST
Enjoy yourself Marchant. You can kill yourself overanalyzing and trying to fit your will with God's will and what other's think God's will is. You know what's right and wrong. As long as you are listening to God through the course of this relationship, I see nothing wrong with it. But make sure to keep your pants on and secured at all times. :)
Posted by The Sage @ 07/16/2002 01:26 PM CST
As described above, Romantic love and human love are indeed different. You've got eros and agape and philos and they are all different. I was just saying "romantic love" since it was used in the posts I was responding to and I wanted to distinguish it from God's love.
Posted by = @ 07/15/2002 05:00 PM CST
(immature) Disney is awesome! But for some reason, I still haven't seen L&S. :o( Maybe I'll go with Sarah... she needs comforting after her breakup with John.
Posted by Sandy @ 07/15/2002 01:35 PM CST
Dude, I want to see Lilo and Stitch so badly. Maybe Disney is making a comeback.
Posted by Marit @ 07/15/2002 12:44 PM CST
